Sunday 27 May 2018

Wearing Matching Outfits Won't Fix Your Mismatched Values. Relationship Nuggets




You may fall head over heels or go crazy for someone who makes you forget your name with just a single glance but what will really make you vibrate for the long haul is the person who shares core values with you. Couples who share the same values have a bond that goes beyond understanding. 


Values are your firmly held beliefs about what makes you authentic and also what you see as valuable in others. Your core values are things you cannot do without, things that will make you uncomfortable and out of step with yourself if you derail.


We are programmed to prefer partners who are different from us to keep the relationship fresh and exciting. An example of this can be a relationship between an extrovert and an introvert. But a relationship between someone who values building wealth vs someone who lives in the moment is a disaster. 


Relationships that are built on shared values are much more strong and likely to endure almost anything. Someone who shares your core values will stick by your side once the early excitement subsides and the goosebumps disappear.


It doesn’t matter how attractive, irresistible, and well-built they are.  It doesn’t matter if they make you laugh and are respected by society. It doesn’t matter if you guys finish each other’s sentences, drive matching cars, wear matching outfits, and drink coffee from matching mugs – It’d never work if your values are mismatched. 


Think About It….

If you believe in making a difference, moving up in the world, building a business, empowerment, change, education, investing in the future, building a legacy, etc…. Is your significant other on the same page with you? If NO, then you’re heading for trouble. 


If you love cars, shopping, drinking, clubbing, doing drugs, partying, etc… Is your significant other on the same page with you? 


Do you both strive towards living in the moment or towards success (whatever success means to you both)?


Miss-alignment of “Core Values” causes havoc and creates major disruption in relationships/Marriage. The type of man/woman you are attracted to says who you are.


Therefore, find someone who shares the same “Core Values” as you.

  1. Slay kings for slay queens
  2. Nyaope boys for Nyaope girls (drug addicts)
  3. Party boys for party girls
  4. Cheating boys for cheating girls
  5. Weed boys for Weed girls
  6. Alcoholic boys for Alcoholic girls
  7. Boss Gents for Boss Ladies
  8. Legacy builders for legacy builders….This is where you find a partner who’s already weird for empowerment, transformation, wealth building, legacy building and making a difference in the world.

You can never again say you didn’t know. Pick your number and go for it…. "wink"




By Nicky Verd
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Nicky Verd, a Prolific Writer, KickAss Blogger, Transformational Speaker and Brand Ambassador for Global Startup Awards -Southern Africa.

Her purpose in life is to serve, empower and ignite human potential. She is passionate about inspiring you to Take Ownership of Your Life.

Follow her on Social Media because personal transformation doesn’t just happen. It takes daily wisdom, tips and a support system. 

"You owe yourself everything you expect from others"



Saturday 19 May 2018

Nine Tips For Building A Memorable Personal Brand On Social Media


People do business with people. Personal branding is becoming increasingly important because modern audiences tend to trust people more than corporations Your personal brand is the most important thing you own. Your business relies on your personal brand. You can also call it your reputation or online presence. 

What do you stand for? Nowadays, people live on the internet and you cannot escape the internet and you might as well be dead if you don't have a personal brand online. “The world pays no attention to those who have nothing to offer”


“Often times consumers, clients, and customers are not just buying a product or service, they are buying an experience, a feeling, a perception, a person(YOU) and ultimately the BRAND”
― Bernard Kelvin Clive


 “A brand is a person that has a voice, evokes emotion and spreads a message. Build a brand or a brand will build you. Create your personal brand. If you don't build your own brand, you will let someone else brand you with the wrong label.” ― Richie Norton


A great extreme example of a personal brand would be Richard Branson, the Founder of Virgin Group. We know about him before we even know about virgin group. Your personal brand is more important now than it ever was before — but that’s not to say that this means you have to aim to become an influencer.

What do you stand for? A personal brand establishes you as a natural leader, makes you someone worth listening to and opens doors for you. Sometimes, I go through people's profiles on social media in an attempt to get to know them but I see nothing. They write nothing on their own platform but rather sharing only other people's posts. They basically have no voice and no opinion of their own....this is very detrimental and a strategic blunder especially for those in business.


Let’s take a look at these Tips for building a memorable personal brand:

1. Know your Purpose. We cannot talk branding without finding your purpose first. What is your purpose? What do you stand for? Where do you want to be and why? What it is that you wanna do? What idea/business is inside you? Until these things are out there branding is impossible. 


2. Get Your Social Media Profiles In Order. You’ll want to ensure that you get your LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram and Twitter pages in order. Plus any other social networks you’re using to promote yourself or your content. This includes deleting unprofessional images and videos from your Facebook profile, cleaning up distasteful comments on Instagram and keeping an updated and active LinkedIn profile. “Be cautious about posts that showcase partying, [or the like]. It will only work against you. People have been denied jobs base on their social media accounts. One guy had a profile pic with him wearing nothing but a socks on his dick. We are living in a very sensitive climate and online tone can easily be misinterpreted. Social media handles have replaced business cards, so your accounts should reflect the personal brand you hope to project to your people. Are you artsy? Are you funny? What are you passionate about? What is your purpose? Your posts should reflect all these – your passion, purpose and personality.


3. Be Authentic: Be the true you; know yourself and resist the tendency to be too humble. Arrogance never works but confidence does. Treat social media platforms and new connections just as you would in real life, be human. However, be sure you are promising what you can deliver and positioning yourself in a way that works for you. Connecting on an emotional level will ensure that your message and your personal brand gets across. Just be you, in your normal setting, talking about what’s important to you and your development. Sure, you should present that content in a friendly and approachable way, but you should never deviate from being authentically you. Otherwise, you risk looking fake.


4. Be shameless. You have to be shameless in building your brand. You can’t be uncomfortable or water yourself down because you’re worried what others will think of you. Great people are shameless, they risked it all to put themselves out there. Mohamed Ali was shameless, Martin Luther King was shameless, Steve Jobs was shameless,…etc.  People who are afraid to build their brands do so coz they don’t want to be humiliated or misunderstood….but then the people who are never humiliated are those whom no one knows nothing about.


5. Build other people up as you build your brand. Some people think branding yourself means knocking other people down and tearing them apart. Bashing others, showing off will not get you a good personal brand. When you say negative things about others, people cannot help but associate that same negative thought to you. 


6. Know Your Target Audience. You cannot serve everybody. Know your target audience. Identify the type of people you want to connect with. Single men/women? Entrepreneurs/hustlers? Students? Mom? Teachers? Parents? etc. Part of building your personal brand involves knowing what you do well (purpose) and who you want to engage with. With these two items in hand, you can begin to understand how what you share and what you comment on can help the people in your niche. Now combine this insight with what you do well and there is an opportunity to help inform and build your online presence in a positive way.


7. Post Content Consistently. The key to your personal brand is consistency. Consistency is a must, as it helps ensure you're on people’s mind. Your personal brand is essentially made up of the content you create and share, from your LinkedIn updates to, to Facebook, Instagram and to your website’s blog posts. Share content regularly that aligns with your personality and what your business does. Over time, people in your niche will start to recognize your account and your name and what you stand for. Sadly, some people never get to post anything on their profile, they only share stuff from other people.


8. Embrace Video Content. Video is emerging as an extremely popular posting format. Your clothing, food choices, tone of your voice, and physical setting all sets the tone for your brand. We are seeing more and more people go life on facebook these days. 


9. Network, Network, Network. You don’t just want followers on Instagam/Twitter/facebook. You want acquaintances who are engaged and informed about your professional journey. “Be sure to engage on posts of other accounts with likes and comments.  Ask questions that reflect you are an out-of-the-box thinker who pays attention to what is happening with their accounts. Add your two cents, put your thought out there, help solve a problem, provide interesting research or data, these are all great ways to build engagement.


Curating your own image and developing your personal brand will enhance your life, no matter what you do for a living. It’d establish your reputation and an identity and this is NOT about taking someone else's ideas and passing them off as your own but about creating your own unique voice. Don't rely on anyone to build your brand for you...only you can do that by creating value for yourself and your audience.

By Nicky Verd
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Nicky Verd, a Prolific Writer, KickAss Blogger, Transformational Speaker and Brand Ambassador for Global Startup Awards -Southern Africa.

Her purpose in life is to serve, empower and ignite human potential. She is passionate about inspiring you to Take Ownership of Your Life.

Follow her on Social Media because personal transformation doesn’t just happen. It takes daily wisdom, tips and a support system. 

"You owe yourself everything you expect from others"