Don’t Build Another Wall. Crying isn't Happy!

You have been hurt and you have built up a wall – a wall equivalent to The Great Wall of China. Inside these walls, you have made yourself comfortable – so you think. You have built this wall as a safety measure – so you think and you have created a world limited to your experiences.

I know you’ve been hurt...

I know you've been betrayed, disappointed, taken advantage of but don't build another wall. Never ever! Because the same wall you’re building to keep pain/sadness out also keeps joy out. The same wall keeping the bad guys out will also keep the good ones out. The same wall keeping hate/betrayal out will also keep love out. The same wall keeping disappointments out will also keep opportunities/blessings out. Brick by brick, higher and higher, you have built these walls with your insecurities, your fears, your self-fulfilling prophecies. You have built the walls to hide your true self or to protect a broken heart.

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.” CS Lewis

  

The wall that was meant to be your protection became your prison. Nevertheless, you look out the window from time to time, admiring those who have no walls around them. In tears, you admire their freedom, how they love freely, dance freely, talk freely, and live freely without any walls holding them back. Sometimes in admiration you wonder, “How can I be like them”? And other times in frustration and trying to validate your own wall you lash out “how can they be so careless and caution-less?” Well, Andrew Murphy said "you are confined only by the walls you build yourself". 

A negative mind can never give you a positive life! "For as a man thinketh so is he..." Pro 23:7. Building a wall will only make you more miserable. Walls brings more pain, more tears and more loneliness. Be in control of your own life, don’t let life and circumstances control or determine how to live. Take ownership! 

The good news is that, bricks made of insecurities or fears, and all other destructive adopted ideas, are very weak. They can be punched out and destroyed by changing your mindset and outlook on life. Each day a brick can be punch out by believing in yourself, taking ownership of your life, letting go of the past and bad experiences and ultimate trust God to help you overcome your fears and insecurities. 

Everyday decide to punch out a brick that’s keeping you locked in the prison of your own mind. Take time out to do the things you love and focus on being a complete individual not just someone who’s so afraid of what could go wrong. Let the fresh air in. step by step, one day at a time, the bricks will fall and soon you will be free – free to love, free to hurt and free to live your dreams. 

By Nicky Verd

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Nicky Verd is a Prolific Writer and Transformational Speaker, she is passionate about inspiring you to take ownership of your life, discover your purpose and maximize your potential. "You owe yourself everything you expect from others"

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